ABOUT FRIENSHIPS AND WHY BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT

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 If you follow me on Instagram, this post should not come as a surprise; after a couple of re-shares and the conversations that followed, I felt it was important to document it on the blog.
Following the popularity of this post on Instagram, I had a conversation with a friend who teased, "Grace, I guess you're a friendship guru now."

 


LET THERE BE GAPS IN YOUR TOGETHERNESS 
I am very big on friendship but like to keep my circle small. As I age (which introduces insights), there are routines I’ve adopted to navigate friendships; especially when you begin to accept that humans in addition to their beauty, kindness, or loyalty, are flawed; possessing irritant, classist, and obnoxious behavior. 
Regardless, as you develop in life, friendships are really important to wade through circumstances, including those who have incessant qualities. There is no immediate need to burn bridges in situations that are within your control. So here are a few lessons; 
• Group your friendships, promoting those who have shown stewardship, consistency in character and loyalty into a class of importance. 
• Group friends into those who relate with you in the same manner of respect and approach, as you do with them and those who don’t. 
• Group friends according to banter, career, hobbies and insightful discussions. In doing so you have fewer expectations from people, would manage your anger when they fall short, have certain expectations from a group, and you can easily demote and promote persons from these groups. Also, when you find someone who can be a friend in all things, marry them, keep them, love them and reciprocate that love. They don’t make them like that any more. 
Most importantly, don’t burn bridges, but let there be gaps in your togetherness. Have you visited my blog this week? 

 Brown Linen TopGucci purse

 OUTFIT DETAILS
Scarf: Channel
Shoes: Stuart Weitzman

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ON CREATING BOUNDARIES
It took me a while, to get a hang of why setting boundaries are important, and that it allows you to enjoy the comfort of a space you’ve set aside for yourself (privacy). In setting boundaries or listing out habits that make you uncomfortable, you get to understand yourself better.
Having boundaries also helps you to navigate friendships, gives you the sense of why respecting people’s sense of self is important, while keeping your respect.

When it comes to boundaries, we find it more hospitable to relax them for lovers, crushes or people who we have a special liking for, but research has proven this doesn’t help build better bonds than leave us irritated and scared. The other questions people ask is how can they know when to spell out or their boundaries in their relationships? My response is always to document your attitude to people’s behaviour and see what in the way you relate with them ticks your anger boxes or leave you irritated afterwards.

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